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Grief, Anxiety, and the Weight We Carry

Before you continue reading, I invite you to pause for just a moment.

If it feels comfortable, take a slow breath in through your nose and gently exhale through your mouth. Notice where your body is supported—by the chair, the floor, or the ground beneath you. There’s nothing you need to do or fix right now. Just notice.

If you’re living with grief, anxiety, depression, or shame, even a brief pause like this can help your nervous system settle.

In my counseling practice, many people come in looking for help with anxiety or depression, only to discover that grief is quietly woven into their experience. Sometimes the loss is clear, such as the death of a loved one. Other times, it’s less obvious—the loss of health, a relationship, a sense of safety, identity, or the future you imagined for yourself.

I often hear clients say things like, “I should be over this by now,” or “Other people have it worse—why am I still struggling?” Over time, these thoughts can turn into shame, intensifying anxiety and deepening depression.

If this sounds familiar, I want you to hear this clearly: nothing is wrong with you.

Grief isn’t something you move through on a schedule, and it isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s a natural response to loss, and it deserves care, patience, and compassion.

Grief rarely moves in a straight line. It comes and goes—sometimes as sadness, sometimes as worry, irritability, numbness, or a harsh inner voice. When grief isn’t acknowledged, it often shows up in the body as anxiety or in the mind as depression or self-criticism.

Why Grief Often Feels Like Anxiety or Depression

Grief doesn’t just affect our emotions—it impacts the nervous system.

After a loss, especially one that feels overwhelming or unsupported, the body may stay in a heightened state of alert. This can feel like constant worry, racing thoughts, difficulty sleeping, or a sense of being on edge. For others, grief shows up as depression: low energy, withdrawal, numbness, or a heavy feeling that makes everyday tasks harder.

Shame often enters when we believe we should be handling things differently. Thoughts like “I should be stronger” or “Why can’t I move on?” can quietly take root, reinforcing anxiety and depression over time.

These reactions aren’t failures. They’re signals that your system has been impacted by loss and needs support.

Grief that doesn’t have space to be felt doesn’t disappear—it finds other ways to express itself.

A Simple Grounding Practice for Grief and Anxiety

If you notice anxiety, heaviness, or self-judgment as you read, you might try this gentle grounding practice:

• Place one hand on your chest or belly, wherever feels comforting.
• Take a slow breath in, and as you exhale, silently say, “This is hard.”
• Take another breath in, and on the exhale, say, “I’m allowed to feel this.”

There’s no goal here other than offering your nervous system a small moment of safety. You’re not trying to make the feelings go away—just letting yourself be with them.

Often, healing begins in moments like these.

A Mindful, Compassionate Approach to Grief

In my work providing grief counseling in Evergreen, Colorado and statewide via teletherapy, I don’t focus on pushing grief away or trying to “fix” emotions. Instead, we work on creating enough safety—both internally and in the body—so grief, anxiety, and depression can be experienced without becoming overwhelming.

Using mindfulness-based cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), meditation practices, and inner child healing, we gently explore the beliefs and patterns that keep people stuck in fear, self-criticism, or emotional exhaustion. Many clients come to realize that beneath anxiety or depression is a part of them that has been carrying grief alone for a long time.

Healing doesn’t mean forgetting what you’ve lost. It means learning how to stay connected to yourself while you carry it.

A Gentle Reflection: Listening to What Grief Needs

If it feels supportive, you might take a few moments to reflect on these questions. There’s no need to answer them perfectly—or at all. Simply noticing what comes up is enough.

• What loss still feels tender or unfinished for me?
  This might be a person, a relationship, your health, your identity, or the life you hoped for.
• How does my grief tend to show up day to day?
  As anxiety in the body, heaviness, numbness, irritability, or a critical inner voice?
• What do I tell myself about my grief?
  Do you notice pressure to move on, comparisons to others, or feelings of shame?
• If my grief had a voice, what might it be asking for right now?
  Rest, understanding, support, permission to slow down, or simply to be acknowledged?

You don’t need to change anything that arises. The practice here is listening with curiosity and kindness. Often, anxiety and depression soften when grief finally feels seen.

You Don’t Have to Carry This Alone

Grief can be deeply isolating, especially when it’s intertwined with anxiety, depression, or shame. Many people believe they should be able to manage it on their own—but healing is not meant to be a solitary process.

I offer grief therapy for teens, adults, and seniors in Evergreen, Colorado and throughout the state via secure video, phone, and in-person sessions. Together, we create a safe, non-judgmental space where your experience can unfold at your own pace, without pressure to rush or “fix” anything.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or simply tired of carrying this alone, I invite you to reach out for a free consultation. Whether you’re interested in session-to-session support or my transformative 90-day program, I would be honored to support you as you move toward greater balance, resilience, and self-compassion.